Sex is one of the most exciting and intimate things you can experience with someone. BDSM and bondage in particular bring the experience to a whole new level and allow you to discover things about yourself and your partner. With the best bondage toys by your side, you’ll be able to push your limits even further.
In this article, you’ll learn:
- What the best toys on the market for bondage are
- How to choose the best toys for your needs
- What BDSM and bondage are
So without further ado, let’s dive into the magical world of bondage sex.
Lovehoney Silicone Ball Ring With Anal Beads
Among Top Bondage Anal Toys for Men
- Great for anal-play beginners
- Works both for foreplay and intercourse
- Easy to clean
Bondage Boutique Black Bound to Please Under Mattress Restraint
Overall Best Kinky Gear
- Super easy to use and store away
- Complete restraint
- Fits bigger beds as well
Saffron Leash and Collar
Best Pet Play Bondage Accessory
- Vegan friendly
- Can be attached to other bondage gear
- Sleek design
Lovehoney Oh! Get Started Tie & Tease Kit
Best Bondage Starter Kit
- High-quality materials
- Really comfortable
- Storage box included
Sinful Bar Gag
Editor’s Choice Best Kink Sex Toy
- Excellent value for money
- Nickel-free metal
- Adjustable strap
Lovehoney Oh! Hot Knots Beginner’s Bondage Game
Best of Bondage Couple Games
- Also great for people new to bondage
- High-quality materials
- Provides hours of fun
Master Series Bad Kitten Leather Mask
Sexiest Addition to Your BDSM Equipment
- Really comfortable
- Adjustable band
- Elegant, sexy design
Bondage Boutique Submissive Special Bondage Kit
Best BDSM Gear Set
- 5-piece set
- Vegan-friendly
- Plush lining on cuffs and collar
Shadow Ball Crop
The Best BDSM Toy for Pain Lovers
- Multipurpose
- Easy maintenance
- Hand strap for better control
Bondage Boutique Faux Snakeskin Over-the-Door Cuffs
Hottest BDSM Toys in 2022
- Easy to use
- Detachable cuffs
- Sexy look
Bijoux Indiscrets Magnifique Chain Necklace Whip
Best Bondage Gear to Wear Outside
- Can be worn in public as a necklace
- Looks fantastic
- Great for spicing up foreplay
DOMINIX Deluxe Leather Full Body and Leg Harness
Best Wearable Bondage Equipment
- High-quality leather harness
- Compatible with cuffs and leashes
- Highly adjustable
Mystim Barry Bite - Bipolar-Stim Clamps
Best BDSM Equipment for Nipple Play
- Bipolar nipple clamps
- Easily cleaned
- Can be used on other body parts
DOMINIX Deluxe Leather Collar With Cock Ring
Sexiest Kinky Bondage for Men
- Adjustable leather collar
- Compatible with other accessories
- Two cock rings
Bondage Tape
Best Bondage Rope Alternative
- Doesn’t stick to hair or skin
- Available in black and red
- Reusable
Our 15 Best Bondage Toys
Lovehoney Silicone Ball Ring With Anal Beads
Among Top Bondage Anal Toys for Men
- Materials: Silicone
- Shipping: Free on orders over $49
- Payment methods: American Express, MasterCard, PayPal, Amazon Pay, Klarna, VISA
If you’re looking for a less common type of restriction, this is the toy for you. The comfortable material and atypical way of use are the two things that make this ball ring with anal beads one of the best BDSM sex toys for men.
Whether you’re in a straight or gay relationship, you and your partner are sure to have a lot of fun with this ring. It restricts the ball sack and stimulates the anus simultaneously, adjusting to the way the person wearing it moves, so you never get quite used to the sensations. In a good way, of course.
What’s great about this toy is that it can be worn during foreplay and intercourse, depending on how long you want to keep the power dynamics at play. You can even use it by yourself to get a feel of a different kind of bondage before you start using it with your partner.
Because the beads are small, they’re the perfect s&m sex toys for men just getting into anal play. Also, you’ll want to know the stretchy silicone is easy to wash. You only need to run the toy under warm water and wash it with soap.
People who reviewed the product said that they loved it and that it made them feel submissive, whether they used it with a partner or not. They warned that the ball ring might be too tight for some, though.
Pros
- + Great for anal-play beginners
- + Works both for foreplay and intercourse
- + Easy to clean
Cons
- − Ball ring may be too tight
Bondage Boutique Black Bound to Please Under Mattress Restraint
Overall Best Kinky Gear
- Materials: Polyester
- Shipping: Free on orders over $49
- Payment methods: American Express, MasterCard, PayPal, Amazon Pay, Klarna, VISA
For the full bondage experience, you’ve got to go big, and these restraints fit that description perfectly. They go under the mattress and stretch to each corner, so even if you don’t have a headboard, it won’t matter. There are four connecting straps which go on either side of the bed, so you or your partner are spread out and surrendering completely.
Kinky things to buy for the bedroom shouldn’t make you permanently alter your bed to fit into the kinky part of your life—and this one certainly doesn’t make you do that. Instead, you can easily remove the toy when you’re done playing and store it away. The material is comfortable and really stretchy, meaning that it can fit beds of any size—even king-size beds. Also, the toy is available in three colors: black, white, and purple.
The biggest advantage of this kind of bondage system over traditional rope is that it operates thanks to cuffs. You won’t have to spend a lot of time restraining your partner but will instead be able to cuff them in the heat of the moment.
Because these are light BDSM toys, the cuffs are adjustable, so you can make them as tight or as loose as you wish. They fasten and unfasten with velcro, allowing even easier access than you thought. This is great news for people just getting into bondage since they won’t have to spend a lot of time figuring things out and will be able to get out of the restraints in a second if they feel like it.
Reviewers absolutely love this product. They praise everything, from its material to user-friendliness. The only thing some of them mention is that the cuffs are a bit thin, but this small detail doesn’t interfere with their fun in any way.
Pros
- + Super easy to use and store away
- + Complete restraint
- + Fits bigger beds as well
Cons
- − Cuffs are a bit thin
Saffron Leash and Collar
Best Pet Play Bondage Accessory
- Materials: Vegan leather, metal
- Shipping: Free on orders over $69
- Payment methods: Credit cards, PayPal, checks, money orders, e-gift cards
Lovers of pet play and bondage no longer have to separate these kinks. This leash and collar are the perfect additions to your BDSM bondage equipment because they allow you to restrict your partner’s movements in a completely new way.
There’s no need to keep the fun reserved for the bed anymore since you can lead or be led by your partner around the apartment/house, too. Their movements and actions yield to your will entirely, making for a truly unique bondage and pet play experience.
You can also attach the leash to the bondage gear you already have, deepening the power play in your session. The collar and the leash handle are made from vegan leather, and the chain is metal, so the toy is both durable and comfortable.
The collar features a buckle which can easily be strapped and unstrapped. It’s also adjustable, so you won’t have to worry about it not being the right fit. Finally, it’s really easy to clean these fun bondage toys after every play session.
People who reviewed this product were satisfied with their purchase and the value for money. Some users did mention that they weren’t impressed with the connector on the leash. It does the job, but it could definitely be stronger. Still, the toy fulfilled their expectations on the whole.
Pros
- + Vegan friendly
- + Can be attached to other bondage gear
- + Sleek design
Cons
- − Connector on the leash could be stronger
Lovehoney Oh! Get Started Tie & Tease Kit
Best Bondage Starter Kit
- Material: Feather, satin, faux fur, latex-free
- Shipping: Free on orders over $49
- Payment methods: American Express, MasterCard, PayPal, Amazon Pay, Klarna, VISA
If you’ve always wanted to get into bondage but didn’t know how, you’ve found the right kinky sex toys. This kit will introduce you to power play and allow you to gently break down your limits and experience sex on a whole different level.
The kit contains a feather tickler, two ribbon restraints, and a blindfold. The toys come with a convenient storage box so you can easily put them away after you’re done playing. While you can use the toys individually, you get the best effect and completely unleash your senses when you use them together.
Wearing a blindfold will build anticipation since you won’t know what your partner’s up to. Feeling the feather tickler is a great way to raise the temperature, especially when you don’t know where you could be tickled next. Finally, this wouldn’t be the best bondage equipment if the restraints didn’t allow you to give up full control to your partner and be completely at their mercy.
Reviewers say they bought this product to spice up their sex lives and it worked perfectly. They claim the sensations really are amplified, although the blindfold can be a bit too slippery for some and needs to be adjusted often. Let’s not also forget to say that a lot of users even got more into BDSM after getting this kit.
Pros
- + High-quality materials
- + Really comfortable
- + Storage box included
Cons
- − Blindfold may be too slippery
Sinful Bar Gag
Editor’s Choice Best Kink Sex Toy
- Materials: Silicone, vinyl, nickel-free metal
- Shipping: Free on orders over $69
- Payment methods: Credit cards, PayPal, checks, money orders, e-gift cards
This list wouldn’t be complete without a gag on it. If you don’t restrict your sub from talking during bondage play, it takes the experience down a notch. That’s why you definitely shouldn’t miss the opportunity to get this toy.
The Sinful bar gag is different from other gags because of its unique shape. Kinky sex objects like this bar gag don’t go deep into the mouth but instead allow you or your sub to comfortably bite down on them. Not only does that prevent the wearer from talking but also makes it more comfortable to wear for a longer period of time without keeping the head in an uncomfortable position. The vinyl strap is also adjustable, so you can tighten or loosen the gag as you please.
According to reviewers, this bar gag is one of the top BDSM toys on the market because it’s both cute and comfortable. Users have a great time wearing it during their play sessions, but some did note that it was too big for them even with the strap adjusted accordingly.
Pros
- + Excellent value for money
- + Nickel-free metal
- + Adjustable strap
Cons
- − May be too big for some people
Lovehoney Oh! Hot Knots Beginner’s Bondage Game
Best of Bondage Couple Games
- Material: Satin
- Shipping: Free on orders over $49
- Payment methods: American Express, MasterCard, PayPal, Amazon Pay, Klarna, VISA
Getting into bondage toys can be hard if you’ve never experimented with them before. Figuring out your role and how to move the situation along becomes easy with this game kit, though.
It comes with a deck of 52 cards, satin ties, and a satin blindfold. Each player draws a card, then has to do what’s instructed on it. Since there are so many cards, you can play the game for hours, tease each other, and see what feels best during your new kink play. T
The dynamics won’t get boring either since there are switch cards included in the deck. They allow the partners to shift positions of control and experience BDSM fully.
The best bondage sex toys like the blindfold and ties make this game even more interesting because they heighten your senses and boost the excitement. When you can’t see or touch your partner, you have to be completely focused on the sensations they’re providing. You’ll never get tired of the scenarios and sensations this game can bring you since the variations and possibilities are endless.
People who reviewed the product say it helped them truly open up with their partner and feel more adventurous than ever before. The only thing they wish for is an extension deck—you can always use more cards and variations.
Pros
- + Also great for people new to bondage
- + High-quality materials
- + Provides hours of fun
Cons
- − Could use more cards
Master Series Bad Kitten Leather Mask
Sexiest Addition to Your BDSM Equipment
- Materials: Leather
- Shipping: Free on orders over $69
- Payment methods: Credit cards, PayPal, checks, money orders, e-gift cards
If you’re already familiar with bondage and own some toys, the Bad Kitten Leather Mask is just what you need to complete your BDSM set. It’s a great way to get into a playful mood and experience bondage on a whole new level. Not to mention that it will definitely help you attract a lot of positive attention on BDSM dating sites.
Pet Play can be very rewarding because it allows you to distance yourself from your body and fully absorb new sensations. Kinky sex accessories like this leather mask allow you to take on the role of a kitten, completely restricting your prejudice but allowing your sense of adventure to flourish.
The mask comes with an adjustable band, so it fits your face perfectly. It ranges from 20 to 25.5 inches, giving you a lot of room to find the most comfortable setting.
Also, this is one of the most elegant kinky couple sex toys because it’s decorated with rhinestones. Not only do they make the mask look more beautiful, but this detail also contributes to feeling like a pampered pet while you’re wearing it.
Users who have reviewed the product are really into its design and the feel of it. However, not that many people have left a review, which is the biggest drawback here.
Pros
- + Really comfortable
- + Adjustable band
- + Elegant, sexy design
Cons
- − Lack of customer reviews
Bondage Boutique Submissive Special Bondage Kit
Best BDSM Gear Set
- Materials: Faux leather
- Shipping: Free on orders over $49
- Payment methods: American Express, MasterCard, PayPal, Amazon Pay, Klarna, VISA
This five-piece set will surely tickle the minds of those who are familiar with bondage and know what they like but want to bring the heat up just a notch. It contains everything you need for a good time—a flogger, a breathable ball gag, two cuffs, a collar and leash, and a blindfold.
The best BDSM restraints allow you to restrict just one or all of your partner’s senses. The choice is yours with this complete kit. Tease them with the flogger, or blur the lines between pain and pleasure—the decision is yours to make. You’ll see right away that the kit offers numerous opportunities to switch things up or discover something new.
Bondage kits made from genuine leather usually require a lot of special maintenance and cleaning to ensure durability. With this set, you won’t have to worry about any of that since the material itself is durable. You’ll be able to enjoy this kit even if you’re vegan.
In addition, the cuffs that come with this kit aren’t just another ordinary pair of cuffs you can get at any kinky sex shop. The first thing you notice about them is the leather-and-metal design, which screams BDSM and hotness. Secondly, they’re padded and the straps on them are adjustable, as well as the strap on the ball gag, blindfold, and collar. This lets you tailor the kit to your needs and desires.
The only negative thing mentioned in user reviews is that the ball gag may be a bit bigger than anticipated, which some people find slightly uncomfortable. Still, practically everyone who has tried this kit says that it’s well worth the money because it led them straight to the bondage experience they craved.
Pros
- + 5-piece set
- + Vegan-friendly
- + Plush lining on cuffs and collar
Cons
- − Ball gag may be too big for some people
Shadow Ball Crop
The Best BDSM Toy for Pain Lovers
- Material: Polyurethane
- Shipping: Free on orders over $69
- Payment methods: Credit cards, PayPal, checks, money orders, e-gift cards
Bondage play wouldn’t be complete without a little pain-endurance. One part of BDSM that a lot of people enjoy is seeing how much they can take when they’re entirely restrained. Push your own or your subs limits even further with this ball crop.
This is one of those kinky adult toys perfectly designed to give pleasure alongside pain, making your next play session even hotter than you could have imagined. You can drag the smooth ball tip across your partner’s body and tease their most sensitive areas, or increase the force and pressure slightly to remind them who’s in charge.
Additionally, the ball crop’s handle makes it easier to have control over the toy and the situation the entire time. The material is perfect for this kind of play, as it’s not too harsh on the skin and it’s rather easy to clean.
Reviewers think this is one of the best BDSM toys for inflicting pain. However, they note this isn’t its only use. Most of them were able to use the crop as a way to silence their sub instantly or lift their chin. In other words, it helped them reinforce the power dynamic in bed. The one concern we have about this product is that there weren’t enough reviews available to give a full picture of the cons.
Pros
- + Multipurpose
- + Easy maintenance
- + Hand strap for better control
Cons
- − Not enough user reviews
Bondage Boutique Faux Snakeskin Over-the-Door Cuffs
Hottest BDSM Toys in 2022
- Materials: Faux snakeskin, brass
- Shipping: Free on orders over $49
- Payment methods: American Express, MasterCard, PayPal, Amazon Pay, Klarna, VISA
There’s absolutely no reason kinky toys have to be used in bed only. Thanks to the power of Internet research, more people are starting to realize that. So it’s no wonder these over-the-door cuffs are some of the best bondage toys of 2021.
As the name indicates, the cuffs go over any door and allow you to experience pleasure in a most unique way—standing up. The way it works is that you place the large barbells attached to the cuffs over a door before you close it. Once you or your partner put the cuffs on, you’ll be ready for some orgasmic fun.
If you want to switch things up and experiment with other kinky sex toys, you just have to detach the cuffs from the barbells. They can be used in all scenarios and areas of your home, providing that perfect bondage experience every time.
The straps themselves can be adjusted from 7 to 10.5 inches of length, allowing you to set a different level of restraint each time. The cuff can be adjusted between 5.75 and 8.25 inches, so you can choose how tight you want them to be. Also, you won’t have to worry about them not being the right fit, or slipping or breaking away from the strap because they’re sturdy and secure.
Customers who took the time to review this and similar bondage toys from the same brand are generally happy with their purchase. The cuffs are very easy to set up and suitable for all sorts of raunchy games. The only thing they warn about is that the buckles may scratch the door since they’re a little rough. This can be solved by putting something soft under them first.
Pros
- + Easy to use
- + Detachable cuffs
- + Sexy look
Cons
- − Buckles might scratch the door
Bijoux Indiscrets Magnifique Chain Necklace Whip
Best Bondage Gear to Wear Outside
- Material: Metal
- Shipping: Free on orders over $69.00
- Payment methods: Credit cards, PayPal, checks, money orders, e-gift cards
Those who like taking their kink out for a walk can now do so discreetly with this fabulous necklace. While at first sight it looks like a gold necklace, the toy is actually a metal whip you can wear as a piece of jewellery totally inconspicuously!
With it by your side, foreplay can start when you’re still at dinner, well before you take things to the bedroom. The anticipation of using all the kinky tools you have at home along with this one will build naturally throughout the entire night. The best part is that only you and your partner will know how the necklace will be used later.
Anyone who’s experimented with BDSM before knows how essential a flogger is to bondage, as it takes kinkiness to the next level. This metal flogger will allow you to keep your sub in place both inside and outside your bedroom. They’ll wear the gold mark of submission with pride, and you can easily leave a few other proud marks on their body with the same item. The color is suitable for any outfit, giving you that perfect finishing touch.
Even reviewers who are new to BDSM love this product, putting an emphasis on its elegance and subtlety. While the flogger part of the necklace was praised for its durability, people noted that the chain is a bit weaker than expected. They warned others not to pull on it so as not to snap the necklace buckle.
Pros
- + Can be worn in public as a necklace
- + Looks fantastic
- + Great for spicing up foreplay
Cons
- − Chain is a bit delicate
DOMINIX Deluxe Leather Full Body and Leg Harness
Best Wearable Bondage Equipment
- Material: Leather
- Shipping: Free on orders over $49
- Payment methods: American Express, MasterCard, PayPal, Amazon Pay, Klarna, VISA
Whether you’re a dom or a sub, you’re going to love this leather harness. It’s the perfect accessory to bondage play. The esthetic design itself is enough to set the mood, and the O-rings allow you to connect it to other things.
You can attach leashes and cuffs to the harness, thereby amping your session up a level. All parts of the harness are adjustable to guarantee maximum comfort to the wearer. While the harness may obstruct your movement (especially if it’s connected to other bondage toys), it won’t get in the way of penetrative sex. You can keep it on during the whole play session.
As far as the measurements are concerned, the waist is adjustable from 23.5 to 36.5 inches, the underbust strap from 26 to 39 inches, and the connecting suspender straps from 4 and 13 inches. You can also adjust the thigh straps—the lower one goes between 8 and 22 inches, while the top strap ranges between 8 and 29.5 inches.
Reviewers say this is one of the best made, most flattering adult BDSM toys they’ve found. They’re also very satisfied with its compatibility with various other sex toys for couples. However, as much as people love the adjustable straps, it takes a while to get everything right before you can start playing.
Pros
- + High-quality leather harness
- + Compatible with cuffs and leashes
- + Highly adjustable
Cons
- − It takes a while to adjust all the straps
Mystim Barry Bite - Bipolar-Stim Clamps
Best BDSM Equipment for Nipple Play
- Material: Gold plated steel
- Shipping: Free on orders over $69
- Payment methods: Credit cards, PayPal, checks, money orders, e-gift cards
Nipples are one of the most sensitive parts of the body. In BDSM, they’re an instrument of pain and levels of pleasure you’ve never experienced before. That’s why these nipple clamps should be a part of your BDSM toy arsenal.
What makes these kinky sex tools special is the fact that they’re electrically conductive. The sensations are, therefore, like nothing else you’ve ever felt. The bipolar feature means that only your nipples will be stimulated, you won’t have to worry about the sensation coursing through your body and overwhelming you.
Those who aren’t so sure about nipple play but would still like to experiment with clamps can easily attach them to any part of the body they please. The clamps won’t be coming on too strong because they have little screws that allow you to adjust the tightness.
When it comes to cleaning these kinky sex props, all you have to do is disinfect them or wash them with mild soap. Then, let them air dry and they’ll be ready to be used again as soon as you want.
People who reviewed the toy said the clamps fulfilled their expectations. Users especially like that the clamps are bi-polar, as those aren’t very easy to find. However, they noted that they slip off easily unless you screw them on really tight.
Pros
- + Bipolar nipple clamps
- + Easily cleaned
- + Can be used on other body parts
Cons
- − Might slip off easily if not tightened enough
DOMINIX Deluxe Leather Collar With Cock Ring
Sexiest Kinky Bondage for Men
- Material: Leather
- Shipping: Free on orders over $49
- Payment methods: American Express, MasterCard, PayPal, Amazon Pay, Klarna, VISA
Women aren’t the only ones that can dress up for a fun bondage session. This leather collar with a cock ring makes any man look sexy and willing to please. The collar is linked to the ring, making the experience more stimulating for the wearer.
If that wasn’t enough, you’ll be happy to know the metal O-rings featured here are compatible with other bondage accessories or kinky sex toys for men. The collar itself is made from leather, meaning that it’s more durable and comfortable.
Additionally, you can adjust this collar-ring combo to make it fit perfectly, and it also features a quick-release clip in the front. This makes the wearer feel safe and ensures there are no injuries, however far you take your bondage session.
The metal chain connecting the ring and the collar actually has an O-ring on both sides—one is 1.6 inches in diameter, and the other is 2 inches. This means that you can choose whether the smaller or the bigger ring goes around the cock.
Another reason we included this treat on our ‘best kinky sex toys’ list is that you have the option of taking the chain off. That way, you can use it for different things, or attach your own leash to the collar easily.
Reviewers who’ve worn the collar and ring say they love the way it makes them feel. The only thing they’re not crazy about is that the chain sometimes pinches the skin on the front of the body. Still, users’ overall experience is positive, and they note the rings are a nice and tight fit for most of them.
Pros
- + Adjustable leather collar
- + Compatible with other accessories
- + Two cock rings
Cons
- − Chain may pinch the skin a little
Bondage Tape
Best Bondage Rope Alternative
- Material: PVC safe
- Shipping: Free on orders over $69
- Payment methods: Credit cards, PayPal, checks, money orders, e-gift cards
Weren’t expecting to see something so simple here? Maybe so, but this toy definitely belongs on our list of the best bondage toys on the market.
The most common thing used for tying up is rope, but then you have to spend ages getting your partner in the right position before you can have any fun. Here’s where bondage tape comes in to save the day.
This safe and fun alternative to rope allows you to create any type of bondage restraint you want, without worrying about the time it takes to do so. You’d use it just like you’d use duct tape, the difference being that this tape only sticks to itself.
That means there’s no mess, and more importantly, there’s no uncomfortable pinching of the skin. You can work the tape over any part of the body you want without worrying you’ll hurt your partner or that the tape will get stuck to their skin. However, this is not one of those bondage devices you can use to make a gag. It may be a choking hazard.
Users praise the tape’s simple design and love how easy it is to use, although some of them do note it can hurt a bit taking the tape off if you’ve used a lot of it. Finally, they absolutely love that you can tear the tape with your teeth, so you don’t have to hit the pause button on your excitement just to go get scissors. O, and it’s reusable!
Pros
- + Doesn’t stick to hair or skin
- + Available in black and red
- + Reusable
Cons
- − Can sting a little if you’ve used a lot
What You Should Know Before You Buy BDSM Toys
While it helps to read about the best toys on the market, you still need to know what makes them so great. Our buying guide is here to help you find the toys that suit you best. We’ll also cover the basics of BDSM and bondage so beginners know just what they’re getting into.
Durability
There’s no point in looking for kinky things to buy without looking at the quality of the materials because these toys can get expensive rather quickly. If you’re planning on using them long term, look for more organic and naturally durable materials like leather and rubber.
The items you buy need to be able to withstand being used often, without malfunctioning or breaking. In some cases, the durability of your new bondage accessories may cost you more, but it will be worth the money in the long run.
Price-to-Quality Ratio
Just looking at the durability can easily make you spend more than you intended to. Also, while a high price tag can be a good indicator of durability, it’s not always a guarantee. You could potentially end up with an expensive item which doesn’t last long at all.
That’s why it’s imperative to consider the value you’re getting for the money you’re spending, regardless of the bondage items in question. Our research and genuine customer reviews are good indicators of a certain product’s price-to-quality ratio.
Additionally, the websites we included often have discounts and sales. It might be worth waiting for a sale or finding a promo code for the toy you want since that’s an easy way to pay less for what you get and maybe even save money for some other toys in the future.
Ease of Use
The whole point of bondage toys is to have fun and expand your horizons. However, some toys can be complicated to put on, handle, or connect to other adult bondage toys. While using them may seem exciting in theory, trying to use them will most likely extinguish the fire of the moment.
Take ropes, for example. They’re one of the most common types of bondage toys but it takes a long time to tie someone up unless you’ve had quite a bit of practice before. This is why we included only restrictive toys like tape and cuffs in our list. They give you the same result without requiring a lot of work.
This is an especially good tip for people who are just getting into bondage and BDSM sex toys. Make sure that putting things into motion doesn’t take more than a couple of minutes.
Specific Kinks
There’s a wide range of bondage toys on the market and not all of them will be right for you. Before you start shopping, pinpoint your kinks. If you’re not sure if you have any, start with the more general toys. You can have a lot of fun with just a blindfold and a pair of cuffs, for example.
If you’re inexperienced in this area, it’s best to avoid the kinkiest sex toys and those designed for specific kinks within bondage. Buying a leather mask or a rubber outfit can be a bit much for a beginner and paint the experience in the wrong light.
Instead, build up to toys related to specific kinks. Not only will you always have more to discover but you’ll also be having fun the whole time without feeling overwhelmed.
Maintenance
One of the most important things about bondage is to clean your toys regularly. Not doing so can lower their life expectancy, and, more importantly, turn them into bacteria carriers.
Of course, the last thing you want to do when you’re done playing is to spend an hour meticulously cleaning your kinky sex toys. This is why you should look for toys that are waterproof, can be air dried, and made of materials that don’t require a lot of attention.
Vegan leather is better than genuine leather in this sense, for example, because it doesn’t require the specific care leather does but lasts just as long.
Where to Start?
When you’re a beginner, getting into bondage and BDSM products and relationship dynamics can be quite overwhelming. This is especially true when you look at all the different toys available out there. But that’s no reason to shut off your computer and return to a sex life without toys or fun power dynamics, though.
The first thing you should do is set expectations for yourself and figure out what you want to experience. Think about all the different fantasies you’ve had in your life and explore your body in ways you haven’t before. Also, don’t be afraid to read up on different fetishes and kinks that exist. You never know what’ll stick.
Before you begin using bondage toys with your partner, the most important thing to do is communicate your expectations and goals clearly. Remember to keep things simple at first, and then gradually push your limits further.
Since you and your partner will be using the toys together, don’t shop without them, and tell them not to shop without you. Looking at kinky stuff to buy together is a great way to get a sense of what your partner likes and bond even more. Depending on how extensively you’ve talked about each other’s kinks, you may even be surprised at the kind of stuff they find appealing and sexy.
The most important thing is to keep an open mind. This is a journey you’re taking together to enrich your sex life, so there’s no room for judgement. Even if you don’t find some bondage sex toys particularly arousing, but your partner does, it doesn’t hurt to explore. After all, looking at a toy and using it are two different things—you never know if you’ll truly like it unless you try.
At the same time, if something doesn’t seem appealing to you at all, don’t be afraid to say no. Setting clear boundaries is healthy in any relationship, and your partner should be understanding of this.
Communicate your feelings in a simple and kind manner without making your partner feel judged or weird. Simply tell them that certain bondage toys aren’t your thing or make you uncomfortable. Make sure to respect their feelings on the toys you choose, too.
How to Have a Successful BDSM Session
Every BDSM and bondage session is different. However, they all have a few key components in common.
Open Communication
Open communication should be an integral part of any relationship, and it’s especially important when you’re exploring BDSM and bondage. You should communicate your feelings and expectations every step of the way. Discuss what you want to explore with your partner in detail, what BDSM supplies you need and want to use, and don’t leave anything up to chance—nothing should be “implied”.
Don’t forget to establish your roles. Ask yourself if it feels more natural being a dom or a sub, and don’t rule out the possibility that you may be a switch. The sub should let the dom know what their hard boundaries are (i.e. what they’re not comfortable doing in any circumstances), and the dom has to respect the sub’s wishes and bodily autonomy, even though they’re in charge.
When you start the session, check in with your partner and make sure they’re enjoying what you’re doing, as well as the kink toys you’re using. This is especially important before taking things up a notch and breaking down another boundary.
Trust
BDSM, and bondage in particular, is a great way to build trust. Talking is one thing, but completely letting go and trusting the person you’re with is a whole different challenge. While the sub has the difficult task of relinquishing control, the dom has an equally difficult task of not letting the sub down.
This dynamic, coupled with pre-discussed kinky toys, allows you to be more vulnerable with each other than you’ve ever been before. Bondage involves restricted movement and senses, which means your body and mind are even more open to new sensations than you’d think. Your dom knows this, too, and won’t take the trust you put in them for granted.
Safewords
While everything is consensual and fun, sometimes it can still feel like too much. Safewords are a mandatory part of every great bondage session. They let the other person know that they should immediately stop what they’re doing because it’s making you feel uncomfortable.
Before jumping into bed, make sure you agree on a safeword. During bondage, the sub’s mouth might be restricted, so it’s imperative to come up with nonverbal safe signals, too. Regardless of how far you plan to take the next session, make sure the sub can signal that they want things to stop in some way.
Aftercare
Once you’re done using your kinky sex gear after a session, don’t forget to give each other some BDSM aftercare. This is a very important step that a lot of people miss or forget about.
Sometimes, the sub or the dom (or both) might experience a drop, which can leave them feeling deflated, unconfident, or sad. Aftercare is there to reassure your partner that you’ve enjoyed the time you’ve just spent together. It gives you both a chance to show one another that you’re mentally okay with everything that’s happened, and that you still respect each other just as much.
Conclusion
The best bondage toys are here and they’re ready for you. After reading this article and doing your research, you should be ready for them, too. The most important thing is that you and your partner are on the same page, that you communicate openly, and that you both know what you want.
FAQs
What Is BDSM?
The term BDSM stands for Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, and Sadomasochism. This type of sexual play involves one partner taking on a dominant role, while the other takes on a submissive role. It’s about playing with control through trust, intimacy, and the willingness to explore each other’s limits.
What Is Bondage?
Bondage is a part of BDSM that involves restricting one partner—usually the sub—in some way. The most common type of bondage is movement restriction with ropes, tape, cuffs, or anything similar. However, senses can be restricted as part of bondage, too. That’s why gags and blindfolds, for example, are common parts of bondage kits.
What Is the Difference Between Bondage and BDSM?
While bondage can be part of BDSM, it definitely isn’t synonymous with the term. The key difference is that BDSM often involves an element of pain. The primary goal of bondage, however, is to highlight certain sensations while being restricted or limited in a certain way. This doesn’t necessarily involve pain, though.