Each day, sex bombards us from all angles. From the magazines we grab at the check-out counter to the music streaming from our radios, it’s now 2015 and sexual implications are everywhere! Having intercourse restrictions can be a very isolating feeling something that can keep one segregated, something nobody talks about...loneliness. We learn that real love and true companionship don’t come in the form of sexy lingerie and massage oils. Instead, true intimacy comes from a deeper connection and a more meaningful mental and physical state of being—yes, true intimacy comes from something more than just sexual intercourse. Holding hands can seem so great when one isn’t use to having human skin to skin contact!
To most, the term "sex" automatically equals intercourse; all sexual behaviors prior to the main event", for instance kissing, soft touching, quiet sensual chatter in your ear, is all a part of sexual pleasure. Sex and sexuality are merely innate natural reactions, my body likes your body, and they are not in any way related to intimacy. Intimacy is much more than intercourse. Intimacy involves two people who care and are connected to another, by sharing their thoughts, talking, touching and spending their time together. The highest quality of intimacy happens when two people with a strong sense of self find the right balance of togetherness and separateness, basically they are interdependent! Their journey together is fulfilling, their focus isn't on intercourse limitations but what’s in their mind and other pleasures of touching and sharing the celebration of life together!
Tantric sex or Tantra is over 1500 years old and originated in India. These teachings and practices are designed to increase awareness of our own energy and the energy around us. Tantra teachings do not focus on the external assessment of what our body looks like or how we wear our hair, instead the idea is to totally surrender all mental, emotional and cultural conditioning so that the universal life energy can flow freely through you creating a cosmic union of opposites that become one. The sensual acts of Tantra become sacred and divine when approached from the heart and body, rather than solely from your mind. Unenlightened sexuality is just an act coming only from the mind with only orgasm as the ending, this is known as the western way of with a lack of total body awareness. There are some circumstances that force us to explore new ways of sexually expressing ourselves, if we are attracted to another for example, the desire is innately there to communicate on some level. If both parties know the untold secret we can then relax and do what comes natural, holding hands and kissing! Kissing is the epitome of intimacy! Sometimes this can be made to last for hours with extreme pleasure. Hugging, caressing, and lying side by side can be very fulfilling! A deep connection can be formed engaging in these acts alone! Reaching a heightened sense of physical pleasure with the right partner will allow you to connect on a deeper level mentally and emotionally, without the actual act of intercour... this can be magic! When two people give something of themselves to another, and have a strong sense of who they are, the road to a balanced lasting relationship is an adventurous journey to fun love!